Johnathon and I met on Tinder, and you can read all about that in this post. Our first 6 months were fight free. In my mind, we were the perfect couple. Blissfully happy and in tune with each other. I would even claim to say that our first year was like this with a couple of disagreements. Then year two came around, and we bickered more than I’d like to admit. There were moments I thought to myself if we were going to move past that fight. It felt like we argued every single day. We probably fought 200 out of the 365 days that year. It was so difficult. We loved (and love) each other so much.
He’s my best friend. The person I can share all my dreams, goals, and the occasional weird thought with. Sharing with him anything and everything that comes to mind without judgement. Two years into our relationship, and we were already so different from who we were when we started dating. I missed the beginning of our relationship. I longed for it. Expressing this to him plenty of times. Constantly fighting didn’t help. “You used to always ____” became a common thought and phrase. I don’t even remember how we pushed through it. Imagine being on an emotional rollercoaster every single day. The highs were a dream. Too happy to stop smiling & giggling. Within hours it would turn into being too upset that tears would stream down my face, and I wouldn’t want to even be in the car with him. This was our relationship at year 2.
At year three, the fighting stopped. Of course we disagreed with each other, but our relationship was in a much better place. During this time was when I started to think about how during the rough times, I just thought about the two people we were when we started dating. I compared it to who we were at year 3, and that’s when I began to appreciate how stable our relationship became. The beginning was great, but I wouldn’t want to go back. It’s important to note that our 3rd year together was when I reflected how much more we are going to change, and how little we know of each other. It was crucial for me to be aware of that. I like comparing it to one being aware of how little they know about the world. Accepting this was key.
Now we’re at the beginning of year 4. It’s been a little rockier than year 1 & 3, but just by a bit. We talk about everything. If I am upset about something, I vocalize it. I speak my mind a bit too much, some may say. However, we are learning to push for a future we both want. I want to go back to grad school, he wants to score a gig as a UX/UI developer. I want 5 puppies, and I think he wants 2. He wants to move to Denver, and I want to move to Brighton or Edinburg. In January we started working together, and that has been a learning process. However, it’s brought an interesting dynamic to our relationship. We’re still learning how to shut off work when we leave. The first couple of weeks have been a learning curve. Regardless of work, I am so lucky to be with a significant other that is so supportive of my crazy dreams. He’s even my photographer. My gorgeous Johnathon. I love him more and more. Let’s see how the rest of year four pans out.
Photography by: Young Revelers