Are You Living The Dream?
Are you living the dream may not be the best way to phrase my question. Here I go again, are you living your dream?
My favorite stories have always been surrounded with adventure, love, and finding oneself in the most curious of situations. I’ve been self reflective a lot lately. Analyzing my childhood and how the small moments, the big moments have shaped me. I 100% believe in taking control of your own life. That’s what I’ve been working towards.
I’m currently working in the marketing and advertising world. For some people, that’s their passion. Having a steady life — knowing what to expect everyday is the dream for many people. So many people I know have said, “no one loves their job”. Buddy, I would say you might be in the wrong path then. I guess you don’t have to be in love with what you do, but I don’t want to be the kind of person that only enjoys their time/life during the weekend and when they’re off from work.
I read an article on LinkedIn once about work-life balance, and how it doesn’t exist. The points that were made were valid. In a nutshell: sometimes work has to prioritize your personal life and vise versa. Another point the writer made was that it’s impossible to shut down those specific parts of your life. For example, you won’t stop being a parent once you step into your office. It’s not possible. Just like you can’t stop an emergency at work from creeping up at 7pm on a Thursday night. Maybe the balance doesn’t exist but being a workaholic isn’t the default.
This past weekend, Johnathon asked me to read a couple of paragraphs from a book, Rework, by David Heinemeier Hansson. What was striking was the analyzation of a workaholic. Being a workaholic is praised but why? Work smart, not hard — have you heard of that before? I’m the kind of person who likes to know exactly what is expected of me at what, and what is needed to be accomplished and by when. Straight forward.
That’ll help me manage my time the best way possible. Will questions and doubts arise? Absolutely. But to blindly lead also equals failure in most cases. Wiggle room to improve and innovate is needed, but that’s different than not guiding a project and employees to an end point with guidelines and milestones needed to be reached in order to successfully complete said project. I’ve also had the experience of being asked my opinion about something at work, knowing it didn’t matter at the end. Because guess what? I’m not the manager, or a part of the leadership team.
At the end of the day, the last time I felt passionate when I was working towards something was during my time at U. Being surrounded by the world of academia. Goodness, I loved it. Storytelling is my favorite thing to do, discuss, and observe. If that’s in the form of books and short stories, music, film, photos — it fills me. In essence, I feel euphoric.
What brings you fulfillment?
Photography by: Johnathon Newman